REJECTION is one of seven possible goals in life, chosen by a soul before taking birth. It drives the personality to express its difference and separateness from others.
“A “No” uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a “Yes” merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.”
— Mahatma Gandhi
In other words, a personality with the goal of Rejection refuses to go along with the common herd and seeks instead to be true only to himself or herself. Whereas those with Acceptance seek to be loveable social butterflies, those with Rejection seek to be defiant individualists.
The aim, from the soul’s perspective, is to live a life free from the distracting influence of others’ opinions or demands — to develop the ability of being true to oneself regardless of what others think.
This may be chosen by a soul as an antidote to a history of incarnations as a people-pleaser. King souls, for example, might choose Rejection as a life goal when they want to be able to work alone without the usual “entourage”. Sages might choose it if they want to work on something without the usual distractions of pleasing their “audience”.
Having the goal of Rejection
Typical traits: individualist, maverick, misfit, blunt, outspoken, nonconformist, uncompromising, controversial, acerbic, misanthropic
Those with the goal of Rejection tend to be edgy, nonconformist, a lone wolf, a bit of an oddball. They tend to express critical judgements and comments almost constantly, sometimes harshly, sometimes shrewdly. This fault-finding is partly an expression of personal truth and partly a way to put others off so as to maintain a state of social isolation. In the case of someone like Joan Rivers, it can also be the basis of a successful career in stand-up comedy.
Those with the goal of Rejection generally hold strong views on all sorts of subjects, opinions which may be harsh to the point of being repulsive. It’s not that they want to be hated for their opinions exactly — it’s just that they simply do not care whether they are loved or hated. Some may regard relationships as unnecessary distractions, something to be avoided or at least kept at arm’s length.
What they actually want is to express themselves in whatever way sets them apart as being brutally honest individualists, and if doing so offends, then so be it. “I’m going to say whatever I please — screw anyone who doesn’t like it.” Their fondness for criticising others attracts social rejection, and that’s fine by them. They don’t mind isolation and are happy to be in a minority of one.
Rejection: positive and negative poles
With a goal of Rejection it is possible to develop and refine one’s critical acumen to the utmost. In the positive pole, this can manifest as great discernment, perspicacity, intelligent judgement, together with a refreshing lack of concern for the opinions of others. Such people excel at calling a spade a spade when the situation calls for it. They can be like a breath of fresh air.
In the negative pole, Rejection can manifest as prejudice, intolerance, bigotry, misanthropy, misogyny. In other words, a general loathing or contempt expressed towards other people, especially those who are different from oneself — the more different, the more loathsome. The person’s ego enjoys the power of being able to make others squirm with discomfort by loudly expressing unpalatable truths and over-indulging in taboo opinions.
If the positive pole of Rejection can be stated as: “I’ll say anything that is true, even if others hate it;” then the negative pole can be stated as: “I’ll say anything that others hate, even if it’s not true.”
Rejection: some famous examples
One obvious example of a person with this goal is the British TV horse-racing pundit John McCririck — a famously offensive man who says his proudest moment in life was being voted Britain’s most hated celebrity. He is brutally honest with his own opinions and couldn’t care less about what others think of him. He holds strong, right-wing opinions on every possible subject and happily admits to having no friends.
|OLIVER CROMWELL||HELENA BLAVATSKY|
|HENRY VIII||BETTE DAVIS|
|LARRY KING||JOAN RIVERS|
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