35 Steps

According to many spiritual teachers, all human beings are, in reality, spiritual beings on a human journey. We reincarnate as human beings in order to evolve as souls.

Our ultimate aim is to become fully conscious and capable as unique individual expressions of All That Is.

It is a long journey, but that’s okay because the soul is eternal.

Soul Evolution

The soul’s journey is really a process of evolving. This means growing in consciousness, steadily progressing through different levels or stages of consciousness.

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How do we grow in consciousness? Through taking on challenging experiences in physical form. These cause us to make important, “soul-searching” choices and call upon us to discover our inner resources.

But why in physical form? Why would a perfectly happy spiritual being decide to inhabit the physical realm with all of its limitations and difficulties?

It is precisely so that we can experience the state of what feels like total separation from others and from the rest of reality. Only by going into this physically separated human form can we know ourselves as beings in our own right, and not just as … well … undifferentiated blobs of energy. Being physical throws our experiences and choices into extremely sharp relief in a way that is not possible otherwise. This is how we learn who we are and how to become all that we are.

In other words:

Choice and the ramifications of choice provide the essential lessons of life. In a very real sense, you choose to be here in order to make choices.

Messages from Michael

The 35 Steps

We are here to know ourselves and be all we can be, step by step. And according to the teachings of the entity known as Michael, there are 35 steps to the reincarnational process. The body and personality you have now are merely the vehicles you have chosen for this latest step in your journey.

But why 35 steps?

Why not 36 steps? Or 10? Or 100?

It is simply because, according to Michael, we go through five major stages of evolution through reincarnation. And, within each stage there are seven increments or levels to be completed. (Yes, it is rather like a computer game.)

5 x 7 = 35.

35 steps

Each single step requires a whole lifetime to complete. In fact, each step usually requires more than one lifetime. Typically, the entire journey of 35 steps takes well over a hundred lifetimes.

So let’s look at the journey in more detail. We’ll start with the five major stages of soul evolution through reincarnation.

The Five Stages

The Michael teachings describe a sequence of five “cycles” or stages of soul evolution. They are named after the stages of human development:

Each of these five corresponds to a specific level of development in capability and self-awareness within the individual soul.

Each stage is also characterised by a different learning focus that is more subtle than the previous ones.

Michael Newton

Incidentally, the same pattern of soul evolution has been identified by the hypnotherapist Michael Newton (right). His groundbreaking research was published in the best-selling book Journey of Souls: Case Studies of Life Between Lives (Llewellyn, 1994).

The books by Newton and his students draw upon thousands of transcripts of people who, under hypnotic regression, have re-experienced being between lives. From the higher perspective of their soul they are able to explain what happens after death and before birth. This includes information about the levels of consciousness through which reincarnating souls evolve.

What Newton and others have discovered is that souls between lives exist in light-form, and that each soul emanates a particular colour of the spectrum which indicates its current level of consciousness.

The spectrum begins at white (all colours) but then goes through red, yellow, green, blue, to deep purple and violet. From low frequency to high frequency. The least evolved souls — the “newbies” — have a pinkish hue. The oldest souls — those nearing the end of the whole reincarnational cycle — have a blueish hue.

Although the spectrum is a continuum, Dr. Newton has found that it can be divided into five distinct stages or levels of evolvement, from Level I to Level V. These can be mapped onto the five stages given in the Michael teachings, from Infant soul to Old soul.

So, for example, souls in the middle (or third) stage of reincarnation are referred to as “Young souls” in the Michael teachings and they are at what Newton would call “Level III”. They will have a yellowish or golden hue.

(As an aside, both Newton and the Michael entity also identify higher levels of soul evolution which do not involve reincarnation.)

The stages of reincarnation (or soul age) can also be likened to the stages of metamorphosis we see in nature, such as egg, caterpillar, chrysalis, butterfly. In reincarnation, though, what changes is not the physical form but the mode of consciousness, especially the form of self-awareness and — as a result — the way of relating to others.

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Soul age and personality

Soul age will affect how a personality comes across in certain ways.

    1. Infant souls focus on immediate survival needs. They flourish in simple environments close to nature, such as remote tribes or rural, pastoral settings. In the context of modern society, however, they can come across as uncivilised simpletons or yokels, and may even be deemed to be psychopathic or have some sort of developmental disorder. Psychologically, they are naive, impulsive and “pre-conventional”, acting on impulse or habit with little or no thought for consequences. Because they lack both social understanding and self-inhibition, they are capable of committing antisocial or immoral acts without any sense of wrongdoing. As such, they do not fit well within modern society and may end up in prison or in psychiatric units. While infant souls may lack the moral principles, social graces and cultural understanding of older souls, they are in a sense completely innocent, being without pretense or agenda. [Well-known example: Fred West, serial killer]

  • Baby souls, in contrast to Infant souls, think a great deal about their actions. Their lives are about safety, security, structure and order — rigidly so. Both their beliefs and their actions are largely rule-bound, so they are often ultra-conservative, traditionalist, orthodox, upright, moralistic, religiously devout, and mindful of law and order. That said, they will occasionally give in to temptation, or temper tantrum, and break the rules themselves — but then might find themselves tortured with guilt and shame. They come across to older souls as rather “square” – conscientious, conventional, conformist. Baby soul communities tend to be highly principled and civilised (think of the Amish). They are acutely aware of the rights and wrongs of people’s actions, including their own, though they have little insight into the motives behind them. Bad behaviour is sinful, and that’s that. [Well-known example: Jimmy Swaggart]


  • Young souls tend to be extravert, outward-bound, worldly, frenetically energetic, brash, competitive, political, ambitious and individualistic. They are more ego-driven than personalities at any other soul age, keen to prove themselves in the world at large. They like to think for themselves, assert their own opinions, and follow their own agenda, with a certainty that their own way is by far the best way. They are generally attracted to some form of worldly success — fame, fortune, power, glory. In fact, they are more fearful of death than souls at other stages, and those who aren’t sure about life after death may be anxious to make a big impact on the world stage – to create some kind of symbolic immortality for themselves. Young souls are acutely aware of their own goals and intentions but do not really question them. [Well-known example: Napoléon Bonaparte.]


  • Mature souls tend to be thoughtful, reflective and sincere within themselves, and sensitive and empathetic towards others. Psychologically, their awareness is no longer egocentric (in the sense of being limited to a single perspective), but capable of accommodating multiple perspectives. In fact, the self-serving ego comes to be seen as a problem, something to be overcome — though in reality it is more a case of incorporating it into a broader level of awareness. This tension between ego and ego-transcendence, or between having both a personal agenda and a desire to be more open and authentic, makes life much more complicated — sometimes overwhelmingly so. On the one hand, mature souls reject narrow-minded values. Yet on the other hand, they can empathise with whoever holds those same values. Fixed opinions are replaced by a sense of ever-shifting perspectives — “It all depends on how you look at it”. This disappearance of solid ground kicks off a search for deeper meaning and self-understanding — whether through art, psychology, philosophy or spirituality. Politically, mature souls tend to be liberal and inclusive, and disapprove of any kind of narrow chauvinism. To younger souls, they can come across as bleeding-heart liberals. They tend to question everything, including their own motives, and are prone to do a lot of soul-searching (literally). [Well known example: Barack Obama.]


  • OId souls tend to exude some degree of depth, gravitas or wisdom that is quite unmistakable. Having moved beyond the conflicts of the mature soul, they are also lighter and have a sense of joyous freedom — the freedom to enjoy being very much in the world, but not of it. They are relatively calm, measured, untroubled and stable, unattached to social structures and cultural expectations, being sure of their own existence and inner strengths and their compassion for others. Their focus is on true self-expression and fulfillment, consciously participating in the evolution of all-that-is. As such, they tend to go their own unique way in life, letting go and letting be, in a detached way that may seem very weird and eccentric to younger souls. Late-stage old souls often focus on teaching spiritual wisdom with great compassion. [Well-known example: Osho]


Note: These descriptions emphasise the differences between stages. In reality, though, there is a gradual blend from one stage to the next. A person at the start of the Mature stage, for example, will act mostly like a Young soul but with elements of Mature soul nature beginning to emerge.

The lessons of each stage

Here are the five stages of soul evolution through human reincarnation, together with the typical learning experiences associated with each stage:

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So we begin reincarnating as Infant souls, complete novices at physical existence. At this first stage we are largely in a state of incompetence and terror, frankly. But through experiences and choices we learn and grow. We steadily progress from being Infant souls to Baby souls to Young souls to Mature souls. Finally, we enter the fifth stage as accomplished Old souls, the experts of human existence.

As infant souls we learned about choices having to do with survival, as baby souls choices having to do with moral codes and ethics, as young souls choices having to do with mastery of achievement, as mature souls choices having to do with relationships, and as old souls choices having to do with the nature of oneness with the Tao. An infant soul would therefore not understand the choices of an old soul although an older soul would likely have more understanding of the nature of younger soul choice having had them.

Michael, via Victoria Marina

To look at each stage in more detail see:

Stage 1. The Infant Soul

Stage 2. The Baby Soul

Stage 3. The Young Soul

Stage 4. The Mature Soul

Stage 5. The Old Soul

Soul levels in the human population

The six or seven billion people on the planet span the whole range of stages, but the average is said to be somewhere just past the mid-point of stage 3 (see chart below). In other words, this world is currently dominated by Young souls whose primary focus is competitive self-advancement.

The seven steps within each stage

Within each stage there are seven discrete steps to go through. In the Michael teachings, they are called “levels”, so in each stage we proceed from 1st level to 7th level. Calling these “levels” can be a bit confusing (since Newton refers to the five major stages as “levels”), so I sometimes prefer to call them “steps”.

So each stage of reincarnation has seven distinct learning steps. For example, we begin the whole journey at step 1 as Infant souls, learn that lesson, then undertake step 2 as Infant souls, and so on. On completing the 7th step of the Infant stage, we then begin the 1st step of the Baby stage.

35 steps

The early steps in any stage are about experiencing life at this new stage of evolution, learning the essential lessons through appropriate experiences.

The later steps are about expressing those lessons, demonstrating this level of consciousness in action.

For example, in the Young soul stage, the first three steps — from 1st level Young soul to 3rd level Young soul — are about discovering the meaning of free will and self-determination; the last three steps — 5th level Young soul to 7th level Young soul — are about demonstrating the meaning of free will and self-determination in action. (The middle step — 4th level Young soul — is about consolidating the lessons learned.)

The first step or level of any stage is like putting a toe in the water; the final step is like teaching others how to swim:

1st Level Initiation into the new stage. “Toe in the water.” First glimpses of the new consciousness. We come to recognise that there is a whole new way of being ahead of us, and we respond to the call, even though as yet it is beyond our comprehension.
2nd Level Building foundations. Wading in and out. Comparing and contrasting the old and new consciousness. We come to understand what is essential and different about this higher level, though it still remains ‘ahead’ of us, not quite within us.
3rd Level Rising to the challenge. Taking the plunge. We determinedly commit ourselves to actively embrace and explore the new consciousness.
4th Level Integration. Relaxing into it, “enjoying the water.” We now identify ourselves with this way of understanding self, life and others – this is our truth. We fully incorporate and consolidate the new consciousness into our own being.
5th Level Expression. Splashing about – “Look at me!” We openly share and communicate our new, true sense of self and of life’s meaning. We feel drawn to broadcast our truth, to “go public” with it.
6th Level Demonstration. Giving value and benefit to others. “Being a life guard.” Our new consciousness is put to the test. We also burn off any outstanding karma incurred in the earlier steps of this stage.
7th Level Mastery. Peak performance. We have complete understanding and control of our awareness at this level. We know exactly what we are doing. We may feel like a role model. Hmm… What’s next?

This sequence of seven steps is repeated through each stage, making 35 steps in all from the beginning of reincarnation to the end.

In case you’re wondering, I’m at the 5th level of the Mature soul stage. My current life’s lesson is about outwardly expressing my Mature soul consciousness.

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Many lives

So, we start our evolutionary journey at level 1 of stage I (as “1st Level Infant souls”) and end it at level 7 of stage 5 (as “7th Level Old souls”).

There are 35 steps in all. And each single step requires at least one lifetime to complete.

A single step can be done in one lifetime but often that’s too big a stretch, so an initial life may undertaken as a taster, followed by one or two more which really go for it.

Sometimes a life is interrupted, and the soul will just have to start over in the next life. Also, some lives are undertaken for reasons other than the specific intent to develop. For example, one lifetime might be undertaken primarily to assist another soul in their development. And some lives are taken on primarily for the death experience, for karmic reasons. These can be very short, of the order of days, weeks or months.

Taking into account all the gaps spent in the non-physical state between lives, a single step is typically accomplished in about 100-300 years of Earth time.

The whole journey of 35 steps usually takes well over 100 lifetimes. Hence, the whole journey is likely to take of the order of 7,000-8,000 years, but possibly a lot more if the population is low and opportunities to incarnate are few.

Questions and Answers

Coming back again and again sounds dreadful. Why don’t we just give up and be done with it? Can’t I just decide that this is my last time?

You cannot skip any of the steps, nor would you want to (from the soul’s perspective). You wouldn’t rent a movie but then skip to the final credits just to avoid the whole process of sitting through the movie. In fact, it’s more like a computer game. You are playing the game because you want to, and at some level you actually love it. And you know perfectly that you need to master one level before you can move on to the next level. That’s what the game is all about.

Who says?

There’s no tyrannical deity controlling the game, forcing you to keep at it, deciding who gets to “graduate” and who doesn’t. It’s just the natural dynamic of life and the evolution of consciousness. A tadpole cannot suddenly transform into a full-grown frog. A baby human cannot suddenly take on a professional career or family responsibilities. There’s a natural, inevitable sequence to go through. And we’ve all signed up for it.

But why? What’s it all about?

Well, at the level of spirit or essence, all is one, all is love, all is joy. This is all very nice, but consciousness longs to experience more and more of what there is to experience, the utter richness and fullness of life.

How does it do that?

By fragmenting into zillions of conscious entities, each of whom has its own experiences and perspective, and each of whom can make its own choices about what to experience. Any soul can choose to continue being submerged in all-that-is, albeit with little sense of self. Alternatively, any soul can choose to undergo the experience of life in a separate physical form, interacting with other souls in their own physical forms. This is the ultimate way to experience oneself as a self.

And that’s why we are here?

We have all made this choice: to use the human form as a vehicle to help us become more conscious of ourselves as the amazing beings we are. The aim is to experience every possible experience that enables us to emerge more and more consciously and fearlessly as ourselves. We begin as helpless infants for whom the experience of separate existence is quite terrifying. But we end as autonomous, self-realised beings for whom human existence is the most amazing way of being, feeling joyful and free and sharing love with the whole of life.

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665 Responses to “Reincarnation: the 35 steps of soul evolution”

  1. 1 Bridgett 30 Oct 2014 at 4:19 pm


    I’ve recently came across your website and I’ve kept up with it for some time now. I’m really glad you guys decided to make this because it’s helped me out tremendously. But I’ve noticed no one has asked you anything about spirit orbs and such…

    About a year ago we moved into a rental home to be closer to my family. Well turns out the place was built over an ancient Cherokee indian burial ground. It was awful… We couldn’t sleep something was constantly shaking the bed, moving stuff, etc. We finally moved out and I bought a new house and things calmed down.

    This is when my kundalini experience started. I don’t know if the reason it got started was because the ghosts scared the snot out of me or if it was the actual realization that there really is life after death. Who knows, and I’ve always been spiritual don’t get me wrong. I guess actually seeing it for myself threw me into it, made it more real, I don’t know. It started with me vibrating with so much energy. It’d actually light up my bedroom at night. I thought I was being haunted again.

    It’d like come in stages… Started with the vibrating energy, muscle spasms, then I could go outside and it looked like a plasma screen tv, then I could look at the trees and see faces in the trees or anything I looked at there would be a face looking back. Sometimes scary or cartoonish even.

    I thought I was nuts… I actually called mediums and asked many people over the internet about such things and no one could tell me anything… then I found out I was going thru kundalini… All of this has happened slowly over the past year.

    It’s agonizing and depressing sometimes going thru it alone, but I’m getting to the point of peace I hope… I can see energies now like crazy all over the place. It really is a beautiful way to look at the world and honestly I could sit and stare at the clouds all day and it’s really hard for me not to, but I’ve got kids that need me so I have to pull myself back down to earth.

    But with all that aside I’ve realized that I’m here to learn and there is this one thing that keeps driving me crazy… I’ll be having a pretty normal day and all of a sudden my mood will change and I’ll start thinking crazy sad stuff for no apparent reason… This would go on for a couple days til I finally figured out to make myself feel positive and it’d go away. So one night I was laying in bed feeling horrible and sad again to the point of crying not knowing why so I thought to myself… This is totally not my thoughts… and out of my back shot this dark blue orb… It lit up my whole wall as it was leaving. It was a beautiful blue very large and bright orb. Where it was attached from my back burned for a long time.

    This has happened several times now. One of my kids even saw it out of the corner of his eye and said, “what was that”. I just said I have no clue… LoL.

    But my question is this finally, What are your theories on orbs having to do with soul evolution? Do you think it could possibly be trying to help me along or hinder me? I’ve got many thoughts on it and I think that’s what drives me nuts over it, because I think on it way too much. I know there are guides and things here to help as well, but I don’t get why it wants to make me feel sad.

    Sorry my story was so long but I felt like I should give you a little history. This is not even half of everything that has happened, but I really thank you guys for taking the time to read and answer our questions. I look forward to seeing your thoughts.

    Thanks again!

    • 2 barry 07 Nov 2014 at 10:29 am

      Hi Bridgett

      I am blown away by the number of people (myself included) who are reporting kundalini-type phenomena right now. Here you can read of my experiences if you haven’t already:

      1. My initiation
      2. Living with kundalini
      3. All shall be well

      I have experienced expanded sensory awareness – when kundalini is erupting like a volcano, I can hear people in neighbouring houses – their conversations, their footsteps, clothes rustling, kettles boiling, etc, all as if they are in the same room as me.

      The blue orbs thing is new to me, so I can’t give you much insight. However, I dd a Google search just using KUNDALINI ORBS and there seems to be load of stuff already on the Web that may be worth a look.

      You are clearly becoming more sensitive at a higher level – probably your 3rd eye chakra opening. (Perceiving blue light is often mentioned in relation to this.) As you become more open to subtle energies and higher consciousness, you may be picking up on vibes from other beings around you. I remember, for example, the first time I entered a seance. This was during my student days – just a dull Sunday evening with nothing better to do. Not expecting anything (being quite skeptical at the time), as soon as I touched the upturned glass I was immediately overwhelmed with a sadness that wasn’t mine, and cried uncontrollably for about an hour. (Totally freaked out the other students!) Despite my skeptical mind, I cold sense that I had been “entered” or “connected with” by a deceased person, a female, lost in her own world of sadness. Whether her contact with me helped her in any way I have no idea.

      So it’s possible you are now able to tune into other beings, and have them tune into you. I believe it is possible to learn how to manage this skilfully – you have to take control of your inner “mixing desk” like a record producer, as it were. There are some great psychics who can advise on this, but be wary of the various charlatans and nut-jobs who don’t really know what they’re talking about.

      One person who really knows her stuff, and offers mentoring, is Gina Lake – http://radicalhappiness.com/

      Some recommended starting points:

      I recently came across a site/group called “Spiritual Reality”. I watched their DVD and found it excellent (see YouTube link below). Their website includes information about 3rd eye activation:


      The video:

      “Spiritual Reality: The Ultimate Guide to Meditation is an enlightening movie on meditation and meditative experiences. In this movie Spiritual truths have been dealt with in a profound manner and given a uniquely stunning visual form by using outstanding computer graphics. ‘Spiritual Reality’ is based on two decades of extensive research and real life experiences of Spiritual Masters. Each one of us is in search of good health, peace, knowledge, prosperity, harmony and overall, a happy and blissful life at all given times and situations. By watching the movie, one can learn to meditate, understand Spiritual science and derive the best out of life. The movie explains in detail basic Spiritual concepts like – how to do meditation, what happens during meditation, cosmic energy and also higher science like etheric body, third eye, astral travel, birth, death and Nirvana.”

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    • 3 Ken Kaplan 07 Nov 2014 at 3:12 pm

      i wanted to wait until Barry replied to respond. I think he gave an excellent answer. In spiritual literature there are many accounts such as yours of early Kundalini experiences. Like yours, in the beginning they tend to be raw, volatile at times, and feeling uncontrollable. Usually over time people start to learn to modulate and balance /deal with the phenomenon. The “inner mixing room” as Barry put it. Gifts and abilities like this aren’t given if they are not meant to be ultimately useful.

      I know little about orbs except that lots of my friends have pictures of them. My suspicion is they are representations of how consciousness appears in a “light body” or non human form to human eyes. The fact that a set of difficult emotions was associated with a blue orb that had attached itself to you lends credence to this point of view.

      I think in the beginning or along this path all kinds of stuff goes on. Most of it is benign. We have contracted for our lives and have endowed ourselves with protection and guidance so that things are not accidental. That experience taught you something about the interconnectedness of things.

      From what you described, you are a pretty advanced soul. Barry has offered a lot of concrete directions to go in. I would just add to ask your guides to allow them to come closer and to form a deeper connection with you so you feel in some or many ways their presence and the manner in which guidance from them is offered. Look for intuitive development classes in your area.

      I would not be surprised if soon you are able to “talk” and get direct messages from them. One way to do this is keep a journal, focus on “plugging in” and seeing what comes to you and write it down. You can orient around specific questions. The more you do this, the better and easier it gets.

      I wouldn’t obsess over orbs too much. They’re part of this landscape. Some people feel led to explore them a lot. I never have. Barry apparently hasn’t either and it has not been that big of a deal. We are all unique so each gets directed toward what fits. Orbs might become a thing for you or not. Follow what your inner heart tells you. That is what is most important. It feels to me like a form of stablization and clarity is most up for you at this time.

      • 4 Bridgett 21 Nov 2014 at 8:05 pm

        Thank you both so much for your wonderful answers! I’ll start researching everything you guys suggested. Sorry it has taken so long to write back. I am 31 and a single mother of 4. So it’s always crazy around here. I do manage to do a little research everyday and I’ve also started reading more esoteric philosophy. It’s also very strange because it is so different from what I’ve ever read about spirituality, but I understand it all. All of this really is amazing. Lol… My kids used to think I’d gone mad when all of this started because I’d run around the house totally smoking it up with sage because I’d read it is supposed to help with hauntings. I still like using the sage occasionally because it helps with my visualizing negativity leaving me. I’m still working on visualizing tho… For whatever reason it is totally a challenge for me. I’ve always been a daydreamer too. Anyways, I am pretty sure I figured out the whole blue orb thing. You see in February of last year my husband committed suicide. I had found out the day he killed himself that he’d raped my then 11 year old daughter. I thought life was wonderful. He was a gorgeous man, had wonderful manners, went to work everyday, played with the kids every evening… He never talked of his childhood much and when he did it was depressing. His mother basically sent him everywhere growing up. He ended up living his teenage life with his grandmother and we were in high school together. A few years after that and we were married. I got pregnant with my daughter when I was a senior in high school by a different guy. So when John and I were married he ended up adopting my daughter and from what I thought treated her like she was his. Well I was wrong…. So that day my daughter told me what he had been doing when he was supposed to have been teaching her how to kayak. So I confronted him and instead of facing the consequences he shot himself. Soooo…. Felt I needed to let you know all that. But I’d read that if people cut their lives short that they have to figure out someway to help guide the ones they were in contract with to making the right choices… Or it could’ve been in the contract that he was supposed to do all this and commit suicide. I don’t know but I figured maybe it was him. But I was meditating one day on how to deal with life… I was having one of those depressing moments and it took about 10 minutes of stillness and this deep voice booms out “You must forgive yourself first.” I totally screamed was not expecting that. I’ve not been able to get to that point in meditating again tho. lol Since then I do think that I’ve forgiven myself for not seeing what was happening right under my eyes. My daughter is doing fine now by the way. She is having a normal life as a 13 year old should despite what happened. Of course when something doesn’t go her way she acts a little more hostile than most her age and that’s hard to deal with sometimes. But the whole reincarnation has helped me deal with this experience better too. Because I’ve also read that when we are old souls the burdens of life are much heavier than when we first started. So maybe I am nearing the end… I am controlling my thoughts better and trying to remain positive during everything. Which is very difficult… Lol I had actually started keeping a journal and writing when the weird feelings would start and why I thought I was feeling that way. It has helped me to gain a little more control as far as the way I act and think when I’m feeling that way. Also there is a place called Delphi university that is close to me. You can look it up online. I have went by and spoke with them several times about what was going on with me. They helped some but you have to pay for their classes and it takes all day everyday for a week or two. So that’s impossible for me to do right now with all my kids. Maybe one day though… Sorry to ramble on and on. But I felt I needed to elaborate… I’ll continue to do my research and I really appreciate you guys helping me out. I felt really alone for a long time… and it is so nice to know that I’m not crazy and there are others that are evolving too and that you’ve started a site where we can help each other along!!! I wish you all well and thank you all so much!

        • 5 kenstories1 21 Nov 2014 at 10:33 pm

          Suicides can be a contract but more often are failed choice points within a contract, a kind of cosmic “incomplete”. The molestation and consequences most likely were by agreement. How he handled it was up to him. But its hard to know for sure.

          Usually Souls that pass on are not responsible to rectify abuses. More often they are involved enough to help out and provide support and guidance but it is not a primary duty. When they cross over they rehabilitate and extend loving energy but it is mostly up to us to clean up the mess. We have an army of guides to help.

          • 6 Bridgett 22 Nov 2014 at 3:46 am

            Thanks for that. Since all this has started I’ve read so much about all of this from different sources. So I have maybe 500 theories… Lol I keep telling myself, “Eh I’ll know when I’m on the other side.” But it’s so hard waiting sometimes. It seems like the truth is right within my grasp, but as soon as I reach to grab it they pull it away just a little bit further… I believe they find humor in torturing us so… That’s like with everything that I have found out it has been laid out like a puzzle. Takes forever seems like to find that missing piece. Also, I don’t know if anyone else has dealt with this but I’ll put it out there. I’ll get messages in the clouds… at first it started with faces, which I was seeing faces everywhere at the time… But after the faces was when the huge energy surges began. I of course had no clue as to what was going on til I finally found it on the internet about kundalini. Thank goodness for that or I’d probably have had myself committed. But unlike Barry’s experience, mine would make me so tired. Even tho I was buzzing w energy all over… And in a way when it started I guess it was like a snake straightened out on my back… But it was violent with me… It literally started with a wham… I had a huge blister on my tailbone and immediately clumps of hair on my head started falling out… tmi I know… but I read about this one guy whose kundalini had started and he had so much energy flow through him at once that all of the hair on the crown of his head burnt off. Lol I hate to laugh but it’s funny to look back knowing what I know now. Because it was completely terrifying. I figured I’d share that little bit incase anyone else is going thru that as well. Anyways back to the clouds, the energy was getting the best of me. The house had became trashed, I felt like I wasn’t being a good mother, I’d totally cry all day over nothing really, I was so tired that I didn’t feel like moving. So that night after going thru this for several days I walked outside to look at the stars. It was a full moon as well. I was totally scared too because of what was going on… I looked at the moon and a cloud was drifting across and it changed to a rabbit. My friend was over as well so they saw it too. I had to ask because this was about the time I thought I was crazy too. So I looked up the meaning of a rabbit. And it said that if I was like a rabbit that I was calling my fears to me. Because when a rabbit is scared it screams out and calls its predators to it. As soon as I read that my anxiety left. Immediately after the rabbit, they showed me an elephant with its trunk up in the clouds… I’m telling you perfect images like a picture in a book or something. So I looked up an elephant with its trunk up. And it said the elephant has to do with kundalini… And it basically said that I needed to ground myself. So that is how I found out I was going thru Kundalini and how to calm myself down. Messages in the clouds… Pretty amazing… So I figured out how to ground myself and life has been almost normal… It’ll never go back to the way it was before this and I most definitely wouldn’t want it to. Because now I’m learning to enjoy this life and I’m extremely thankful for this experience and for the help from my angels in the clouds. Without them I’d prob still be sitting here basically drooling in the bed… Now I’ll see symbols of all kinds when I have a problem going on. I don’t go outside expecting to see anything but something will direct my attention to the clouds. A bird or bug or something. But the symbols are way more difficult to figure out… It’s kind of frustrating so at the time I’ve given up trying to decipher the meanings of those. Anyways, there’s sooo much more and I could talk about it all the time. And it’s so amazing how much I learn everyday. Oh and also I have also been visited by a causal entity… could’ve been the Michael one. I’m not sure. The only reason I saw it was because my dog was watching something invisible go back and forth. So I snapped a pic with my phone and it was a huge blob with faces all in it. One face stood out the most which was a beautiful lady with such a beautiful smile. Of course I didn’t know what it was until I just read Barry’s blog about Michael and I was just reminded of it. I didn’t make any contact with it because I’m not to that point yet. But I do think it wanted me to know it was there. Maybe they do the choosing who gets to receive this gift. I’m so Thankful I was. Thanks again guys!!!

            • 7 kenstories1 22 Nov 2014 at 4:04 am

              My advice to you is begin to let go of trying to decipher external signals and start asking to directly communicate with your guides.You will have to find some quiet time to do this. As your intuitive ability increases clarity will also increase. You also can ask them to slow the messages down and keep it simpler and more direct, as you did in the previous grounding. No need to be so tired over all of this or overwhelmed. This learning to balance seems to be one of your big life lessons.

              The suicide info is pretty consistent across most Mediums from what I’ve gathered.

              • 8 Bridgett 22 Nov 2014 at 10:03 pm

                Do you think that we possibly make decisions in daily life that could lead us off our contracts? Besides suicide of course.

                • 9 kenstories1 23 Nov 2014 at 3:23 am

                  Yes. My understanding is the “contract” is an intention, a kind of blueprint made up of probabilities. Some are so great (body, intelligence, parents, spouses, etc) that they are almost impossible to move. But within this blueprint is free will and choice, opportunities to confront with deal with and choose experiences that either fulfill the intention or bypass some of it. This is where we challenge ourselves to expand and grow. However some lives are like vacations where we get an easy one.

                  Its kind of all over the map as to how much people complete but I think most are where they should be. Its rare to completely blow the gig and have to do it again. Its rare to “outperform it.” Most are in the middle. Par for the course.

                  My guess is you’re pretty much on time. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here. Congrats.

                  • 10 Bridgett 23 Nov 2014 at 4:18 am

                    Lol I hope so… and thank you! I’ll leave you guys alone now and take your advice of working on my balancing. Thanks for all the help!

                    • 11 almira 24 Nov 2014 at 1:56 pm

                      Hi Bridgett. Have you heard of the Blue Pearl? I read once that when the kundalini has arisen, the meditator will see a blue person or something. It is said to be your Higher Soul. Not very clear on the other details though.

                    • 12 kenstories1 24 Nov 2014 at 4:00 pm

                      There’s no reply button to Almira. The blue pearl to my underrstanding was promoted by Swami Muktananda who founded Siddha Yoga in the 70’s.

                      “Seekers who are steadfast in their practice of meditation and who have deep faith in inner self-will would eventually be able to delve deep into the subtle realms of consciousness. Here, they begin to perceive the scintillating Blue Pearl, the ultimate goal of spiritual sadhana”

                      Muktananda was the on;y teacher I know of that spoke of this in such a way. Perhaps there is truth to it but I am wary for the following reason. Consciousness is infinite. Therefore it is beyond the mind. Whatever lies in higher states is in the unknown.. To try and classify a “samadhi” (deep higher states) as “this’ Or “that” puts one in the realm of conceptions. of expectations.

                      Is the “blue pearl” a reference to a deep state of bliss? Perhaps. Is bliss attained other ways? Here is Yogananda’s greatest state. No blue pearl.


                      Muktananda classified what you should experience at various stages of meditation. I find this suspicious for the reasons I’ve already mentioned.

                      However, I saw a Kandinsky painting at a huge exhibit once, and one painting in his later life was of only a radiant blue pearl like circle.

                      I would not constrict the goal in meditation to any phenomena. If it happens, fine. Let the Higher Self do the work.

                    • 13 barry 02 Dec 2014 at 9:07 am

                      Sorry ken – it was the link in your comment that sent it to the “pending” queue.

                    • 14 Bridgett 24 Nov 2014 at 6:32 pm

                      No Almira I haven’t. I’ll look into that. Thanks!

  2. 15 TJ Gibbs 15 Nov 2014 at 4:37 pm

    So pleased I went searching for this and have spent most of today reading through and digesting with avid head nodding moments…I wonder how we know if we are not deluding ourselves on where we are on our Soul Development journey? I seem to be at 33 and have tried double checking other numbers via stages and levels but this feels right..my spiritual mentors have both told me that I am highly ascended and are shocked by how quickly with their guidance it has become clear but I am even more shocked at my soul development findings on the chart …can we kid ourselves we are higher than that which we are?…in spite of my need for my humility check I am overwhelmed by how simple and sense making these blogs are and cannot wait to digest and learn more…I am developing my market niche as “The Love Coach” and cant wait to understand more to be able to include it all in my work and for the teaching of those that choose me to serve them..HUMBLY GRATEFUL FOR THE LEARNING SO FAR THANK YOU XX p.s. if you could point me anywhere at looking at Soul Contracts I have an avid appetite for that subject right now…maybe I will come across it here as I read on??

    • 16 Ken Kaplan 16 Nov 2014 at 3:04 pm

      One thing that comes up over and over on these boards is a sort of obsession with “Where am I”? I think the value lies in the overall understanding and a kind of ball park knowing of where you’re at. Other than that it can become mind candy to think to hard on *exactly* which stage or sub stage I’m at.

      If your intuition and what you are doing in life matches a particular stage, then that’s probably pretty close. But in the end, you are “here-now” and “wherever you go, there you are”.

      I am doing intuitive coaching also. So you’re probably at least at 5th or 6th stage mature but you could be an old soul.Humility has nothing to do with it if you are sincere. But if your ego gets involved “Look at me I’m a _____ soul, whatever”, then watch out.

      More and more books on Soul Contracts coming out.

      Journey and Destiny of Souls-Michael Newton
      Life Between Life- Joel Whitton
      Memories of the Afterlife- Newton and students
      Your Soul’s Plan- Robert Schwartz
      Your Soul’s Gift- Schwartz

      Search Amazon for subject, there probably are more at this stage. I haven’t read them.Search the web, there will be lots of articles.

      God Hunting

  3. 17 Diana Benton 15 Nov 2014 at 10:24 pm

    What happens when we finish?

    • 18 Ken Kaplan 16 Nov 2014 at 2:50 pm

      Barry will comment well on this but the understanding is twofold. There are apparently two major stages beyond the physical of “actualization” of thew individuated self. These stages lead to an expansion we cannot imagine in our present state. Or, it has been suggested, some souls wish to do the whole thing all over again. Apparently this desire would come from a place of understanding far beyond where we are at now.

      We are eternal, immortal beings whose true nature is that we are fully one with (same as) the All, by whatever name you give it. The truth of being is everything and everyone is God, disguising itself for the experience of separation, a grand self illusion.

      “”Children of Immortal Bliss , what a sweet, what a hopeful name. Allow me to call you, brethren, by that sweet name, heirs of immortal bliss. The Hindu refuses to call you sinners. You are the children of God, holy and perfect beings. Sinners? It is a sin to call a person so. It is a standing libel on human nature. Come up, O lions, and shake off the delusion that you are sheep. You are souls immortal, spirits free, blessed and eternal.” –Swami Vivekananda

      “Thou Art That”- Core mantra of Hinduism.

  4. 19 TJ 16 Nov 2014 at 7:28 pm

    Thanks Ken…I hear you on the Ego side ..I am just coming to the understanding of so much all at once that I needed to just double check my thought process and you have confirmed that it is indeed the Ego asking that question lol…does it really matter..no because it will be what it will be regardless of my stage/level..I think in a way knowing that the life I have led has order and sense beyond that which I feel is soo comforting allowing one to exhale and let go of the need to make sense in this realm..Thanks also for the book suggestions TJ ..p.s. love the intuitive coaching reference really sums up something I have been trying to explain

    • 20 Ken Kaplan 16 Nov 2014 at 7:53 pm

      Keep in mind you are guided by teams from the other side and you have contracted for all this so you are in good hands and most likely are where you are supposed to be. Let it flow and let the Divine in you unfold as it will, using your intuition to guide you each step of the way. Each step creates more wisdom and strength for the next. The process-journey-unfoldment keeps getting clearer as you go.

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